Clare and Chris at The Devonshire Dome

When you know what you want…

What can I say about this bonkers pair? The first time I spoke to Clare she told me what she and Chris didn’t want… a ceremony that had been written for the masses which is why they chose to book me as their Celebrant to write and carry out their ceremony. They wanted a wedding ceremony that was a little bit traditional, a little bit quirky and with a lot of their personalities woven in, in short, a ceremony that was as unique and individual as the two of them, and that is what they got…

When we met it was clear that they were no ordinary couple. Both of them are a little bit crazy… and when their kind of crazy meets it’s best to fasten your seat belts and enjoy the ride!  After all, who turns up on a date carrying a big bunch of flowers… in a vase! or has their photo taken naked in a wheelbarrow?! They may not be the most outwardly romantic couple, in fact they are a bit ‘Jack and Vera’ loads of banter and both having to have the last word, but they know each other inside out and would never be without each other, they are each other’s greatest challenge and each other’s inspiration.

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Before we talk about the ceremony let me tell you about the wedding party, everyone looked stunning I don’t know what I loved more, the horse drawn carriage, the stunning bridesmaids or Chris and Clare’s daughters who were the cutest flower girls ever, in this image Clare has just arrived with her dad.

Chris looked amazing and completely pulled off the ‘tall dark and handsome’ look but of course Clare outshone them all, she’s beautiful anyway and was totally stunning, Clare’s wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses (don’t you just love that colour, so dramatic) were designed by Mark Lesley and came from Dream Dress Bridal in Bredbury. Clare’s bouquet and flowers were from Red Floral Architecture, more about that later…

Building on words

When we were crafting their ceremony we communicated regularly, phone calls, text messages and emails swapping ideas, sending them words for sections of the ceremony and talking through what would work for them and finally we had a ceremony that suited them down to the ground.

“His proposal was so romantic, there was Chris on the doorstep on one knee, the street lights, lighting up the softly falling snow behind him”

Chris and Clare wrote their own vows which were heartfelt, touching and funny, just as you might expect, and perfect for them. I can still feel the crackle of excitement as their guests waited for Clare to arrive and the hush that fell as the music began and they realised this was the moment.

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Her Dad was so proud as they walked in together and Clare’s beaming smile just said it all. Chris was almost holding his breath as he waited, turning to see her looking radiant as she stood by his side.

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A candle, a bell and a box

When I told them about symbolic ceremonies they liked the idea so much that they decided that they would like to light a candle at the beginning to honour and remember their lost loved ones, whose flame burned throughout and symbolic of their presence during the ceremony.

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They had done the legal bit at the Registry office so decided not to exchange rings during their big day, instead they had a truce bell ceremony, they called it a time out bell ‘for those Jack and Vera moments’.

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Like a good champagne or a great whisky a great love will deepen and mature with age. Chris and Clare had captured their thoughts leading up to their wedding day in personal notes to each other. And they created their very own time capsule which contained a small bottle of Southern Comfort and a small Bottle of Champagne as well as their love letters which were sealed in individual envelopes. They have not seen what the other had written, and they will be opened on a date of their choosing. A lovely way to celebrate their relationship and to remember the feelings that they had whilst writing their notes. They can also reminisce about all of the wonderful memories they will have made over the years and of all of those yet to come.

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Compliments and contributions

When I was writing their ceremony I contacted some of their friends and family who gave me the low down on them, some great stories… but what shone out more than anything is that they are well loved, in their own right and as a couple, everyone agreed that they are the best thing that has ever happened to each other. Their friends also contributed by reading poems, a romantic one and a funny one, no surprise there!

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Ladies and Gentlemen please stand to applause the happy couple as they walk down the aisle together to begin their married life, it gives me great pleasure to present to you, MR & Mrs Brown… and they didn’t walk, they boogied… 

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As I was leaving Clare had spotted a vintage bus outside the venue and in true Clare and Chris style worked the opportunity for some off -the-cuff pictures.

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Suppliers on the day.

The Devonshire Dome is such a gorgeous venue, though I wouldn’t have expected anything less as Clare is a very well known Make Up Artist (Harry Jon MUA) and knows the best in the business, what really stood out were the huge floral displays that had been created by Red Floral Architecture, so striking, and the scent that they gave off was fabulous. And the images of course were from the lovely Damion of DSB Creative.

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Matt and his team had really pulled out all of the stops to create a beautiful display that was just breathtaking. The Videographer was Tom at Silk Wedding Videos and The photographer was the lovely Damian from DBS Creative who has kindly agreed to share his photo’s with you on this blog.

Kind Words

We just wanted to say a huge thank you to Liz, we met up and waffled our way through our life in a nutshell, sharing stories and quirks with Liz like we’d known her for years. Liz asked questions and we sat quiet, awkwardly answering and came away thinking ‘do we sound like we don’t know each other!?!’ Well, Liz must be a seriously good listener and our waffle paid off. Chris and I sat, both of us crying as we read the first draft of our story – in fact Chris couldn’t speak. It was fantastic for us. It had romance, comedy and the odd tear jerker in there, Perfect. She even gave us the courage to write our own vows and I’m so glad we did. There is no stress with Liz, she’s professional and effortless, taking everything in her stride, truly amazing at her job. Absolutely worth every penny, and the perfect Celebrant to share our day. 

Clare & Chris xxx

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About the Author

Liz Thompson

 
Liz Thompson is a Civil Celebrant based in Manchester in the UK and working across the North West of England, Liz creates unique and personal ceremonies and services for life events such as Weddings, Civil Partnerships, Baby naming, Vow Renewal and many more. Follow Liz on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest and Instagram

Chloe and Paul at Broncoed Uchaf

A beautiful autumn wedding

Chloe and Paul’s wedding took place on a beautiful day at the beginning of October. I became involved when I was contacted by Patricia Harrison from Gift of a Wedding to tell me that Chloe had been told that her illness had progressed, Chloe’s Dad suggested that they get married which is when Gift of a Wedding stepped in to help. Gift of a wedding are a charity who gift wedding services to people who have a terminal or life-shortening illness. They do this by bringing together wedding professionals who are willing donate their services for free.

Chloe and Paul wanted an outdoor wedding and as many couples do they decided to do the legal bit in a quick signing at the Registry Office and have a celebrant for a personalised, more meaningful ceremony.

When Patricia asked me I was more than happy to offer my services for free because I support Gift of a Wedding and what they stand for but also because I believe that everyone should have the opportunity to have the wedding ceremony of their dreams, a ceremony that is personal and meaningful, whatever their circumstances.

“It was an honour and a pleasure to plan Chloe and Paul’s wedding. We’re delighted that we were able to fulfill their wedding dream and create some wonderful memories for their family and friends”

Patricia Harrison – Gift of a Wedding

Creating their ceremony

Celebrant Manchester| Personalised Weddings| Handfastings Manchester |Unity Ceremonies When I met with Chloe and Paul and their dogs Henry & Buddy for the first time in their lovely home, Chloe told me that she had always wanted a vintage/rustic wedding, we talked through their thoughts and wishes for their special day, I explained about symbolic ceremonies and the couple decided that they would like to have a candle lit at the beginning of their ceremony to honour and symbolise the presence of Chloe’s Mum Jan who had passed away in 2006.

Paul liked the sound of the handfasting ceremony. In the hand-fasting ritual, the couple’s hands are bound, to symbolise their lives being joined together. It is an old Celtic tradition and is where the saying tying the knot came from. The handfasting cord itself was symbolic I made it for them and sourced the Buchanan Tartan in homage to Paul’s Scottish heritage, and also wove in the pastel colours that Chloe wanted in her ceremony, pink for unconditional love and nurturing, and green for balance and harmony, I also wove through it a golden thread to symbolise the quality of their love for everyone who was sharing their day with them.

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A wonderful wedding under nature’s canopy

So the day dawned and I set out on the drive to Wales, it couldn’t have been more perfect, blue skies and such a beautiful setting, Broncoed Uchaf in the Flintshire countryside is stunning and the perfect setting for Chloe and Paul’s wedding ceremony, all of the suppliers worked so hard to make every detail of their day perfect for them.

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You could almost feel the crackle of excitement as the guests waited under a beautiful copper Beech Tree, Paul was very handsome (and a little nervous) standing shoulder to shoulder with his best man Chris as they waited for Chloe to arrive, and she made a stunning bride walking down the aisle of autumn leaves to the music ‘One Day like this’ with her Dad, following her gorgeous bridesmaids and Buddy and Henry too! Paul was so proud to be standing there with Chloe by his side.

the candle was lit, it’s warm glow a reminder of her Mother’s love, her dad gave her away and Chloe’s brother Richard opened the ceremony by reading a poem for them,


These I Can Promise

by Mark Twain

I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; 
I cannot promise you riches, wealth or gold; 
I cannot promise you an easy pathway 
That leads away from change or growing old. 


But I can promise all my heart’s devotion; 
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow. 
A love that’s true and ever growing; 
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.


The couple and their guests were touched and amused to hear their personal story after which, completely lost in each other they spoke their vows to one another and exchanged rings, time for another poem and then finally with their eyes locked, and hands linked, I bound their hands in a beautiful binding of love and total commitment.

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Congratulations!

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The guests cheered their congratulations as they walked back down the aisle as Mr & Mrs Tibbott, surrounded by the love of their family and friends, a truly lovely couple who will always hold a special place in my heart


I carry your heart with me (I carry it in)

by e.e. cummings

I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart)

I am never without it

(anywhere I go you go my dear; and whatever is done by only me  is your doing, my darling)
I fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet)

I want no world (for beautiful, you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing, is you…

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky

of a tree called life;

which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart)


Check out this video of their big day – by Barry Davies at creative Videos

Kind Words

Thank you so much again for everything, it was so beautiful and lots of people have said to me how much they enjoyed the actual ceremony, Chloe and Paul


The rest of the team who gave their time, skills, services & creativity

to make Chloe & Paul’s perfect wedding day are…

Gift of a Wedding

Lottie Elizabeth Photography

Claire Basiuk Photography

Broncoed Uchaf

Creative Video’s

The Jolly Good Vintage Company,

Cambridge Event Bars,

All Undercover Marquee Ltd,

Fodder in the Field,

Di Shackson Flowers,

Cheshire Cat Cake Company,

The Flower Room Monton,

Ultimate Hair ltd,

Lovelies Delights,

Lottie Elizabeth Photography,

Wirral Tool Hire Mold.

The Owain Glyndwr Inn

Music was by a group of musicians brought together by Amy Chalmers


About the Author


Liz Thompson is a Civil Celebrant based in Manchester in the UK and working across the North West of England, Liz creates unique and personal ceremonies and services for life events such as Weddings, Civil Partnerships, Baby naming, Vow Renewal and many more

You only get one chance to have your ceremony and as ours is not yet a regulated profession anyone can call themselves a Celebrant. Any professionally trained Celebrant will be more than happy for you to check that they are qualified to do the job.  I trained with The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, see my About Liz page for more information.

Kate and Ryan’s English Rose Wedding at the A. J. Bell Stadium

Kate and Ryan’s English Rose Wedding at the A. J. Bell Stadium

A Family Affair

Kate and Ryan’s wedding was a beautiful celebration of young love with family and friends not only being there for them but also taking some key roles too.  Ryan nervously waited with his four best men, all of his brothers! In first came the flower girls, Ryan and Kate’s daughters and their Niece who looked beyond cute followed by Kate’s sister Emily who was Maid of Honour.  And Kate looked stunning as she entered with her Dad, wearing a beautiful flowing Grecian dress and carrying her bouquet of dusty pink roses that suited her complexion really well.

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Kate and Ryan decided on a traditional style ceremony with a few an added twists, Emily opened the ceremony by reading out the poem ‘On your wedding day’ and then Kate’s brother John lit a beautiful handmade candle hand made by Jo at Love Herbal to honour and remember Kate’s Granddad . It was very emotional for Kate and her family and lovely to be honour his memory by symbolically including him in their special day.

Kate and Ryan’s Story

The part of the ceremony that always really touches people is the couple’s story of how they came to be together and the journey that brings them to their wedding day. There are usually a few tears and some laughter thrown in for good measure.

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Ryan’s Brother read a poem called ‘I’ll be there’ about the more amusing side of married life and then it was time to make their vows. There are so many ways and combinations of vows and neither like public speaking so Kate and Ryan chose to have their vows mainly as questions from me for them to respond to. Their last two vows were beautiful and spoken to each other. Then it was time to exchange rings and sign the bespoke certificate which I had designed for them, it matched their copy of the ceremony which I bound in colours to match their theme.  Symbolic Ceremonies | Wedding Celebrant Manchester |Unity Ceremonies It was a lovely day and they made such a beautiful couple who loved their bespoke ceremony.

Everybody commented on how different and personal the ceremony was and it was very emotional.

It was nice to have her there on the day, rather than a registrar, because she knew us, our likes and dislikes and we knew her. I am so happy we had Liz perform our ceremony and we feel so lucky that we met her that day.


Footnote:

You only get one chance to have your ceremony and as ours is not yet a regulated profession anyone can call themselves a Celebrant. Any professionally trained Celebrant will be more than happy for you to check that they are qualified.  I trained with The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, see my About Liz page for more information.


Liz Thompson is a Civil Celebrant based in Manchester in the UK and working across the North West of England, Liz creates unique and personal ceremonies and services for life events such as Weddings, Civil Partnerships, Baby naming, Vow Renewal and many more. Follow Liz on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest and Instagram
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Ric and Aislinn’s English Garden Wedding at 11 Didsbury House

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Ric and Aislinn’s wedding ceremony was always going to be a stylish affair. Their amazing venue, 11 Didsbury Park was the perfect setting for their English Garden Wedding. They married under a rose arbour surrounded by their friends and family, some of whom had travelled from far and wide to be there.

Manchester to Miami by Skype

Aislinn and Ric wanted to marry surrounded by their family and friends, simple… Even when the couple live in Miami, and their families live in Grenada and The UK. When the couple contacted me with their enquiry I sent them the information that they needed and answered their questions, they decided they would like me to be their Celebrant and we arranged to meet on Skype and take it from there.  We talked through the wedding ceremony planner in the same way that I would if I were to meet with them at their home.   And so the planning began…

Distance is no object

Wedding Celebrant Manchester| Unity Civil Celebrancy | Symbolic Ceremonies|Unity Ceremonies I love creating ceremonies that are a little bit different and am always open to new ways of working to ensure every couple has the ceremony of their dreams. Talking with Aislinn and Ric was no problem at all, the distance between us seemed negligible really as we Skyped and emailed back and forth their ceremony began to take shape, we co-wrote the vows and I created a ceremony plan for the day and shared it with their vendors, The Bridgewater Quartet and Jonny Draper Photography to ensure that we all knew what was expected to happen on the day.

A typical Manchester summer!

The wedding day dawned and typically for Manchester the skies were grey and gloomy, looking ominously like it was going to rain but as the day drew on the skies cleared and they had their wonderful June wedding day. There was an air of anticipation as Ric waited nervously with his brother at his side for his bride to appear and as the music began in walked Aislinn’s Niece carrying a ‘Here comes the Bride’ sign, followed by Aislinn looking radiant in an ivory silk sheath dress, she was accompanied down the aisle by her Mother Esther who gave her away, both women looked stunning. Ric was his usual laid back self but you could tell by his huge grin that he was bowled over by his beautiful bride.

Memories old and new

Creating ceremonies that are really meaningful begins with listening to what the couple would like to convey to the world about their relationship, often their family history and the roots that bind them to their loved ones are important to them and they like to take the opportunity to weave in elements that remember lost loved ones and/or create new traditions and wonderful memories. Aislinn’s brother Damian opened the ceremony by reading an extract from a poem by Kahlil Gibran. It was important to Aislinn that her father was remembered on her special day so she and her mother lit a candle which burned throughout the ceremony, symbolic of his presence on her big day. Following that Ric’s Mother Susan read a beautiful piece that spoke of everyone’s collective wished for the couple.

Vows, promises and pouring sand…

Unity Sand Ceremony | Unity Civil Celebrancy | Liz Thompson |Unity Ceremonies They also decided that they would like to have a Unity Sand Ceremony so when they had made their vows and exchange rings with beautiful words and promises to each other they began to take turns in pouring the sand to the sound Bach’s Air on a G string. They had brought with them beautiful bottles for this purpose, Aislinn brought sand from her home island of Grenada, representing her Fathers heritage and where she and Ric met and also from the beaches of Ireland, representing her Mothers heritage. Richard joined her with sand from Miami Beach Florida where the two now reside and from the natural sandstone that forms the Peak District, his birth home.

In pouring the sand they created layers combining the sand that was symbolic of their lives and although it was combined into a single container the layers of colour showed that Ric and Aislinn have retained their unique identities and personalities. Yet, looking closer, it was virtually impossible to define the exact point where one layer ended and the next began — the grains of sand can never be separated, a strong and beautiful representation of their union and continued journey together.

Esther then read a Wedding Prayer and as they were pronounced Man and wife and Ric kissed his bride their guests stood to congratulate and applause the happy couple, showering them with fresh lavender for grace, refinement and elegance and rosemary for remembrance, the scent was beautiful and they looked so happy together. They really are made for each other….Wedding Celebrant Manchester | Unity Civil Celebrancy | Liz Thompson|Unity Ceremonies

At the end of our day, when we thought back, or day was truly superb. A lovely touch was the beautiful card that accompanied a copy of our vows and ceremony which found placed in our room that evening.

Footnote:

You only get one chance to have your ceremony and as ours is not yet a regulated profession anyone can call themselves a Celebrant. Any professionally trained Celebrant will be more than happy for you to check that they are qualified.  I trained with The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, see my About Liz page for more information.


About the author


Liz Thompson is a Civil Celebrant based in Manchester in the UK and working across the North West of England, Liz creates unique and personal ceremonies and services for life events such as Weddings, Civil Partnerships, Baby naming, Vow Renewal and many more. Follow Liz on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest and Instagram

Symbolic Ceremonies | Warming the rings

With this ring…

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A ring warming is a beautiful part of the Wedding Ceremony and a great way for the couple to include guests in their wedding ceremony. It is one of my favourite symbolic ceremonies, it is very spiritual and it gives your guests the opportunity to impart their love and good wishes to the happy couple through warming their wedding rings in their hands and silently… making a wish, a prayer or blessing. Which is great if you have an eclectic guest list as everyone will have the opportunity to impart their good wishes in their own way so no one gets left out.

Ringing the changes

In a traditional twist it is always good to give someone the role of ring bearer in a very different way than the usual tradition of walking the rings up the aisle (if you have one) on a cushion, that way the ring bearer can take charge of your rings to ensure that everyone has the opportunity to hold them and to make sure everything runs smoothly and they don’t get lost! Ring warming is still relatively new in the UK and as Celebrant I would explain to guests, what it is and how it works so that they know something about this beautiful part of the ceremony is and what is expected of them.

Symbolic Ceremonies | Celebrant Manchester | Alternative Weddings |Unity Ceremonies There are many different ways that you can incorporate a ring warming into your ceremony. You can have the ring bearer begin to pass the rings from the back and by the time they reach you at the front they will be thoroughly drenched in the love and best wishes of your guests and ready for you to hold and impart your own wishes into them before you place them on each other’s finger. I can write some beautiful words for you to say that speak of the ring warming and the meaning and intention behind it or you could write your own words to say to each other.

A circle of love…

Have you thought about a different kind of seating arrangement? This is a great one for smaller outside ceremonies but is equally effective when used inside. Set your seats in a large spiral, so that when you walk in, you walk between your guests and end up in the middle, your guests will then surround you and will be able to see you from all angles and really lovely for the ring warming.

If you have a lot of guests you might want to have everyone warm your rings as they arrive and before they take their seat, this can be managed by having a sign up with an explanation of what it is about and giving the ring bearer the responsibility of greeting the guests and handing them the rings for the warming, attaching the rings to a cushion or placing them in an organza bag would ensure that they don’t fall and save your ring bearer the trouble of crawling on the floor to find them! Beach Wedding | Celebrant Manchester | Alternative Weddings |Unity Ceremonies

You could have an Owl swoop down with your rings to be received by a trusted member of the wedding party and the process can begin from there. You could run a string or ribbon down the rows of seats which will be secured after passing it through the rings and they can be safely passed along your rows of guests without fear of losing them. Or place tied together them in a pretty bowl, perhaps someone could make one for you with two holes to thread the ribbon through to securely tie them to it? For a beach wedding you could use a beautiful shell to hold the rings. The possibilities are endless…

A sign of the times

Alternative Weddings | Celebrant Manchester | Symbolic Ceremonies |Unity Ceremonies An example of a sign for your guests to read before they take their seats could be… “Before you take your seat, please take a moment to join together in the warming of our rings. Hold the rings in your hand for a moment and warm them with your love, make a silent wish, say a prayer or give us your blessings. Then we will always carry with us your love and good wishes throughout our married lives”.

If you like the idea of a ring warming ceremony, whichever way you decide to do it, i’m sure it will be perfect for you. If you would like any more information about this or other ceremonies, please feel free to contact ,e using the comments box below and I will be more than happy to answer any questions that you might have.


Footnote:

You only get one chance to have your ceremony and as ours is not yet a regulated profession anyone can call themselves a Celebrant. Any professionally trained Celebrant will be more than happy for you to check that they are qualified.  I trained with The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, see my About Liz page for more information.


 About the Author


Liz is the proud owner & founder of Unity Civil Celebrancy and enjoys working with all kinds of people, creating beautiful and memorable ceremonies that celebrate their important life events in their own unique style. Connect with Liz on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest and Instagram


A Wonderful Welsh Wedding at Bodysgallen Hall, North Wales

The day of Becky and Mel’s civil partnership ceremony dawned in North Wales in brilliant sunshine with clear blue skies and not a cloud in sight. And what a journey it has been for all of us. Theirs is such a beautiful love story, taking them both by surprise and beginning at a time when they were both in a good place and ready to take the next steps into a wonderful and joyous relationship.

Working together to create something beautiful

Symbolic Ceremonies | Same Sex Weddings | Celebrant Manchester |Unity Ceremonies I first met Becky and Mel at a wedding fayre in Manchester. Both girls were very definite about what they wanted, which was a personalised Civil Partnership, a ceremony that blended bits of traditional service with their own unique style. We arranged to meet to go through their wedding planner and so began nine months of meetings, phone calls; emails and text messages to make sure the Women had everything that they wanted from their ceremony.During our meetings I began to get to know both women as we discussed their relationship, history and their feelings for one another.

They wanted to write their own vows but were unsure about where to start so I drafted some sample vows based on what they had said during our talks. That was all that they needed to set them off thinking about what they wanted to say to each other. They didn’t need any help in deciding on readings and poems, and they chose well, nominating their family and close friends to read at key points during the ceremony. Close to their ceremony date we met at the venue, the stunning Bodysgallen Hall in North Wales for their rehearsal which gave us the opportunity to walk it through and make any last minute changes. They were to marry in the drawing room, a beautiful, stylish space which was perfect for an intimate family ceremony.

A Family Affair

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Mel waited nervously and the ceremony began with the beautiful Canon by Pachabel, played on the harp by Dylan Cernyw. Becky walked in with her father, and was stunning in a purple Grecian style dress, and he was beaming with pride when he gave her away.  Both are close to their families and were keen to ensure that everyone including the cat was in on it! His photo was on the table along with others and at this point the couple’s loved ones took part in a small, private ritual to honour those who could not be with the women on their wedding day, honouring and remembering, their special memories creating a beautiful and poignant part of their ceremony. Their guests loved the part where I told of their personal journey as none of them had attended a Celebrant led wedding before so were pleasantly surprised and very touched by it. Mel’s friend Margaret then read The Velveteen Rabbit, a lovely representation of love and it’s way of changing us.

Vows and Rings

Most often people sign the register quickly the day before then have me do their more personal and meaningful ceremony at their chosen venue. Mel and Becky opted to have the Registrar come out to their venue on the day. We worked together to ensure the happy couple had a seamless ceremony incorporating everything they wanted. They signed the register with Dylan playing Calon Lan and I will always love you in the background. Bill, Mel’s step father was their ring bearer, they exchanged rings and said their vows beautifully.

The Handfasting

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Becky’s Nan, Nina read a poem entitled Life which lead nicely into their Handfasting, which is a symbolic ceremony and a marriage rite that began in the Middle Ages, which is where the saying ‘tying the knot’ came from. Becky made their Handfasting cord herself which meant it held extra special meaning as she wove into it the love and dreams that she holds for both of them, during their ceremony and in their future together.

The Unity Candles

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Following the Handfasting the women lit the centre pillar of their unity candle from the tapers which had been lit earlier, joining their families and sets of friends to become one and creating the final flame, bringing them together as a couple, never to be parted.

Their Civil Partnership Ceremony ended with Mel’s Sister reading a poem entitled Two Families. Both women looked gorgeous and you could feel their love for each other as their ceremony ended with Dylan playing Everything has changed by Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran amid applause, cheers and hugs and kisses all round.

Kind Words

 

Vows are the most important parts of a ceremony but boy are they hard to write!  Once again Liz came to our rescue.  Based on the individual conversations she’d had with us, she produced a first draft to get us started and they were almost perfect; it just took some small slight amendments to finalise them.

It was a beautiful ceremony and an amazing day, I always feel privileged to be asked to share such personal and intimate moments and I pride myself on ensuring couples have the ceremony of their dreams and it’s always good to hear that I have done a good job when receiving such wonderful feedback. And an added bonus? My partner was at the wedding fayre and they got on famously, heralding the beginning of a new and lovely friendship culminating with an invite to their wedding and a fabulous day was had by all.

Footnote:

You only get one chance to have your ceremony and as ours is not yet a regulated profession anyone can call themselves a Celebrant. Any professionally trained Celebrant will be more than happy for you to check that they are qualified.  I trained with The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants, see my About Liz page for more information.


About The Author


Liz Thompson is a Civil Celebrant based in Manchester in the UK and working across the North West of England, Liz creates unique and personal ceremonies and services for life events such as Weddings, Civil Partnerships, Baby naming, Vow Renewal and many more. Follow Liz on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest and Instagram